Hooking up...A break down

One of my friends is recently divorced. She was with her now ex for 11 years, so getting back into the dating/single scene is exciting, scary, and completely uncharted for her. Reality check she hasn't "dated" since college, and I mean meeting up at the keg party or bar is not exactly the same as dating in your 30's.

I was out with her and a couple who have been married for close to 10 years this weekend. We were talking about how my friend had been kissed the night before by the guy she had been talking to all night. She called me from the cab on the way home, and my reply was 'Why are you on the phone with me right now, and not smooching that cute guy more!" This whole subject led to the great hook-up conversation. Now I have had this conversation with long time marrieds before. See I can't go out without Tizz and our older sister asking if I made-out. If the answer is yes it is followed by a slew of more question on how the whole thing went down, because well they haven't been in that situation for a long time.

The conversation with the husband over the weekend was hilarious with insights into what he thought goes down and what actually does. Below is a list of my answers to his questions.

1) No going home with someone does NOT guarantee sex.

2)No one leaves, you stay the night. Adult sleepover per say.

3) Yes you sleep in bed together, next to each other and do not have sex.

5) Well yeah some people do have one night stands, it all depends on the person.

4) Yes the morning can be awkward or it can be totally fun, an extension of the night before.

5) It all depends on how drunk the two people were and what really their reasons for going home together were.

6) Hopefully the number has been exchanged before you go home with someone/you wake up in the morning.

7) Yes it is always awkward in the bright morning light, with bad morning breathe and hair to give someone your number while you are looking for your other shoe.

8) Yes, if you have a car, you should drive the other person home. Even if you don't like them/want to hear from them again. It's just rude not to.

9) Correct just because you slept over does NOT mean you had sex. In fact I think the older we get the less likely people are to have one night stands.

10) You just make-out, some smoochie face, some over the sweater action, maybe a little under the sweater action, you know making-out....Oh right you have been married for 10 years you don't just make-out anymore.....Well you should try it. It's fun.