Monday, March 8, 2010
Technical Difficulties
Tish's computer is down. She ordered a new one but it won't be delivered for a week. So don't expect to hear from her this week. Oh plus she is sick....really sick. Headed to the Dr. today so sick.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Sayonara
Today is my last day at my job. I have been with this company less than 8 months and hated almost every minute of it. It was weird from the get go. There is an odd office vibe, no one really gets along. It is a small office with few employees but no one is really busy. The kicker is the woman (who I have ranted about on here before) who has been in the accounting deptartment here for 3 years, but does not know what a credit and a debit are. If you are scratching your head thinking I don't either....that's totally fine. You don't work in any accounting function you don't need to. When I say this is the most BASIC and most fundamental aspec I am not exaggerating. I have no idea how she has gotten by in this job for three years by not knowing it. The idea that my boss has not fired her based solely on this information and nothing else releases me from any guilt I would feel about leaving the lion's share on my work on his shoulders (since the other woman does not have the mental fortitude to do it.
So Sayonara quiet office. Sayonara getting hung up on, or blatantly being ignored. Sayonara to the brown, red, green commute. Sayonara to the shoulder stress that has accumulated. Sayonara to it all.
So Sayonara quiet office. Sayonara getting hung up on, or blatantly being ignored. Sayonara to the brown, red, green commute. Sayonara to the shoulder stress that has accumulated. Sayonara to it all.
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Editors Note about previous Post (aka Lish's rant there wasn't room for before)
The woman who wrote the content of the previous post wrote an article a couple of years ago that made me want to punch her in the face. It was entitled The Case For Settling or something stupid like that. Basically when she turned 40 and was still single she decided to become a single mom. Once she was a single mother she realized how hard it was to raise a child by herself, and how much harder, and expensive (hello paying a babysitter if you want to go out)it was to find a mate with a baby attached to your hip. In my opinion it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that getting older and having live baggage is not exactly desirable to the opposite sex. But for some reason the author felt the need to write this piece "informing" younger woman in their 20's and early 30's about her new realization. In the piece she gets nostaglic for some former flames. With her new perspective of age, being less desirable, and how hard (yes she actually says she didn't realize it would be hard)it is to be a single mother, she realized how flaky she had been when letting some great guys go. Some of her reasons for breaking up with people, were that they didn't read, she didn't feel like their career was impressive enough, and they were short. Note none of these are real reasons to break up with someone. Hello they don't read???? REALLY? She encouragess younger women to throw away their checklists (I agree with this) and even if they aren't in love, marry a nice guy, so they don't have to take the harder path in life like she did. But the kicker of the whole thing is at the end after going on and on for 5 pages about how finding a companion is more important than finding love she concludes the piece by saying that settling is not an option for her because she has to set an example for her daughter. WTF!!!! She effectively blew all her points out of the water with the last sentence. The piece is condescending, hypocritcal, and like I said earlier makes me want to punch her in the face. That's my soapbox try not to trip on it.
Five Traits in a Mate That Are Not Deal Breakers
* This is reblogged from MSN homepage.
1. His height
Let me say upfront that I'm 5'2". With one-inch heels. And yet I always preferred to date guys who were taller than 5'9" (and so I could kiss them while barefoot, shorter than 6'0"). But one expert explained how limiting this was: "Let's say there's a 50 percent chance you could be with a guy who's 5'9". That's a height you like, but it could go either way depending on what else he brings to the table. There's probably a five percent chance you could be with somebody who's 5'4" — but there's a chance. Maybe if you spent an hour with Danny DeVito or Robert Reich, all of a sudden you would say, 'You know what? This is somebody I could actually spend my life with' — even though the height is never going to be ideal. On the other hand, take somebody who's unkind. There's a 100 percent chance you won't want to be with him. So I'm saying, what are the real irreducibles as opposed to the unlikelies?"
2. His online dating profile
A Northwestern researcher who studies online dating (yes, there are scientists who make a living doing this) told me that I shouldn't get too specific about my search parameters in online dating because in his research, he found that "there was a lack of correlation between what people said they wanted on a questionnaire, and what they actually pick when they meet a real, live person." Moreover, he added, don't rule out a guy because you think you know what it means that he misspelled a word or likes Madonna. You have no idea who this person is until you meet him. An online profile, he said, "is like reading the ingredients on a box of food and trying to imagine what it would taste like."
3. His occupation
Yes, alpha males are sexy and charming. But they aren't always the best partners for me, especially if they travel for work all the time, need to be the center of attention and don't have the same ideas about how to run a household that I do. As a dating coach explained to me, many women are attracted to super-ambitious and charismatic guys who are leaders — but it's hard to find a person who has that kind of personality and also makes time for you and is able to put you first when it counts. Now Joe, the cute elementary school teacher, on the other hand ... you get my point.
4. His age
The thing about being picky is you have to know what to be picky about. Apparently, I wasn't picky enough on the things that matter (shared values, reliability, "getting each other") and was too picky on the things that don't (his age). While I wouldn't want anyone to mistake my husband for my father, it's foolish to decline a set-up with a guy just because he's got less hair and more wrinkles than I do. This might sound beyond obvious, but many women end up dating guys with a chemistry of "9" and a compatibility of "5." The happiest couples, though, have both a chemistry and compatibility of "7." Would I be more naturally attracted to a guy who's my age? Yep. Would it matter that much in the scheme of things if he was 12 years older but still handsome? Probably not. Am I going to be more wrinkled one day and thrilled to be with a man who finds me attractive anyway? You bet.
5. How he compares to "my type"
One expert told me that when she first met her husband, she had no interest in him at all. He wasn't her type. He didn't fit her image of the kind of guy she imagined herself with. She was Ivy League-educated, and he was a potter. At first there were no sparks. Nada. But the more time she spent with him, the more she liked him. And then the sparks flew. They've been married for 20 years. "In America," she explained, "when a potter makes a pot, they put a glaze on it and put it in the kiln and know exactly what it's supposed to look like when it comes out. But when the Japanese make a pot, they put it in a wood-fire kiln that could be any temperature, and when they take the pot out, it's not always exactly like they thought it was supposed to look like. And they say, 'Oh, wow, this is what the fire did to the pot and it's gorgeous!' They believe there's no beauty in perfection. So instead of knowing what the person sitting across from you is supposed to be like, the question you have to ask is, 'Do I like it?' instead of 'How does it compare to what I thought I wanted?' People can surprise you."
I totally agree with these. Although I think Stylish Older Sister will call me out on agreeing. She has over the years set me up about half a dozen times. Everytime she calls telling me she gave out my number, then the potential flaw, he's shorter than you, divorced, possibly with kids, live in the burbs, etc, I moan. BUT I have never not gone on the set up.
1. His height
Let me say upfront that I'm 5'2". With one-inch heels. And yet I always preferred to date guys who were taller than 5'9" (and so I could kiss them while barefoot, shorter than 6'0"). But one expert explained how limiting this was: "Let's say there's a 50 percent chance you could be with a guy who's 5'9". That's a height you like, but it could go either way depending on what else he brings to the table. There's probably a five percent chance you could be with somebody who's 5'4" — but there's a chance. Maybe if you spent an hour with Danny DeVito or Robert Reich, all of a sudden you would say, 'You know what? This is somebody I could actually spend my life with' — even though the height is never going to be ideal. On the other hand, take somebody who's unkind. There's a 100 percent chance you won't want to be with him. So I'm saying, what are the real irreducibles as opposed to the unlikelies?"
2. His online dating profile
A Northwestern researcher who studies online dating (yes, there are scientists who make a living doing this) told me that I shouldn't get too specific about my search parameters in online dating because in his research, he found that "there was a lack of correlation between what people said they wanted on a questionnaire, and what they actually pick when they meet a real, live person." Moreover, he added, don't rule out a guy because you think you know what it means that he misspelled a word or likes Madonna. You have no idea who this person is until you meet him. An online profile, he said, "is like reading the ingredients on a box of food and trying to imagine what it would taste like."
3. His occupation
Yes, alpha males are sexy and charming. But they aren't always the best partners for me, especially if they travel for work all the time, need to be the center of attention and don't have the same ideas about how to run a household that I do. As a dating coach explained to me, many women are attracted to super-ambitious and charismatic guys who are leaders — but it's hard to find a person who has that kind of personality and also makes time for you and is able to put you first when it counts. Now Joe, the cute elementary school teacher, on the other hand ... you get my point.
4. His age
The thing about being picky is you have to know what to be picky about. Apparently, I wasn't picky enough on the things that matter (shared values, reliability, "getting each other") and was too picky on the things that don't (his age). While I wouldn't want anyone to mistake my husband for my father, it's foolish to decline a set-up with a guy just because he's got less hair and more wrinkles than I do. This might sound beyond obvious, but many women end up dating guys with a chemistry of "9" and a compatibility of "5." The happiest couples, though, have both a chemistry and compatibility of "7." Would I be more naturally attracted to a guy who's my age? Yep. Would it matter that much in the scheme of things if he was 12 years older but still handsome? Probably not. Am I going to be more wrinkled one day and thrilled to be with a man who finds me attractive anyway? You bet.
5. How he compares to "my type"
One expert told me that when she first met her husband, she had no interest in him at all. He wasn't her type. He didn't fit her image of the kind of guy she imagined herself with. She was Ivy League-educated, and he was a potter. At first there were no sparks. Nada. But the more time she spent with him, the more she liked him. And then the sparks flew. They've been married for 20 years. "In America," she explained, "when a potter makes a pot, they put a glaze on it and put it in the kiln and know exactly what it's supposed to look like when it comes out. But when the Japanese make a pot, they put it in a wood-fire kiln that could be any temperature, and when they take the pot out, it's not always exactly like they thought it was supposed to look like. And they say, 'Oh, wow, this is what the fire did to the pot and it's gorgeous!' They believe there's no beauty in perfection. So instead of knowing what the person sitting across from you is supposed to be like, the question you have to ask is, 'Do I like it?' instead of 'How does it compare to what I thought I wanted?' People can surprise you."
I totally agree with these. Although I think Stylish Older Sister will call me out on agreeing. She has over the years set me up about half a dozen times. Everytime she calls telling me she gave out my number, then the potential flaw, he's shorter than you, divorced, possibly with kids, live in the burbs, etc, I moan. BUT I have never not gone on the set up.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Monday, March 1, 2010
We're Back
Sorry for the radio silence, and this short post. We had a great time, will get into it more at a later date. But right now, I am tired (didn't get home till 12:30am), sick (full on cold complete with temperature, swollen glands, soar throat, and snot) and I am training my boss on month-end close procedures.
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